A Personal Problem [Archive] - Wizards Community

A Personal Problem [Archive] - Wizards Community

Post/Author/DateTime Post
tsuyoshikentsu
12-19-05, 05:17 PM To keep it short: what happens if a player and I start dating?

Yes, this is the same group I posted about LAST time. Yes, we have in fact received several offers from soap opera producers.
Thracos
12-19-05, 05:38 PM Better question: Why in the name of all that’s holy are you asking us? Don't you think it might be a better idea to talk to the other person about this? If you’re asking about general relationship advice there are other forums on the web that are much better equipped to answer your question. If you're wondering about how this will affect your gaming group you should talk to them about it, we wouldn't be able to answer that one anyway.
imperialjunkie
12-19-05, 05:41 PM There's usually some hand-holding, a few nights out to the movies. Maybe a kiss at the end of the evening. And it gets expensive. Be prepared for some fairly strong feelings of both insecurity and excitement. Sleepless nights can be common too. But don't worry. You should be fine.
Kuronue
12-19-05, 05:42 PM To keep it short: what happens if a player and I start dating?

Yes, this is the same group I posted about LAST time. Yes, we have in fact received several offers from soap opera producers.

Um...

see, sometimes a DM and a player happen to fall in love. Then the birds and the bees get together and have a party, and that's how Freeform RP is born!

I dunno. Cheers for you? I'm dating a player of mine, it's just like any other relationship among a group of friends (your group ARE friends, right?)
Milandros
12-19-05, 05:46 PM Referring to the gaming only, if you are both mature, responsible people who trust each other and don't have the need for fake reassurance by bending the rules to "prove" you love each other, then nothing.

My gaming group contains two married couples. There's never been a problem.

Of course, if you aren't both emotionally stable and secure, relaxed and happy, then, hey you might as well have titled this thread "I'm dating someone from the same office - what do I do?" or "I'm dating one of my regular drinking buddies - what do I do?" or any other romance/friendship/mix question.
Good Agnostic
12-19-05, 05:47 PM Answer: You will have less money available to purchase gaming supplements.
Gworraent
12-19-05, 06:04 PM So what? Nobody I know has actually had to buy a dnd book for months! You really would be spending your money more wisely on you GF
HyperVyperBeam
12-19-05, 07:08 PM Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5
Xanthia
12-19-05, 07:23 PM Answer: You will have less money available to purchase gaming supplements.
Pretty much yeah
Gnarl
12-19-05, 07:34 PM To keep it short: what happens if a player and I start dating?

Great, you're probably getting laid soon. Alleluia!
blackknight5k
12-19-05, 09:29 PM my wife is always a PC in my games, and there aren't usually problems. I mean, when her PC gets smacked for max damage she does give me "the look"...you know, that look like "why did you do that to me?"...but usually she doesn't say anything. Now...that one time I did almost kill her character...yeah, I had to work REALLY hard for my treat at bed time that night...if you know what i'm talking about *wink wink, nudge nudge*

Just kidding, she didn't hold out on me that I remember. Anyways, you'll be fine.
blackknight5k
12-19-05, 09:30 PM Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5

One more bit of advice - never EVER call it your longsword +5 until you are married
Horatio Hornblower
12-19-05, 09:46 PM Good for you!

Hey, it's just game. Your "real life" is more important.

As long as the player you are dating is mature enough to realize that as DM you can't play favorites in the game then everything will be okay.

Playing favorites outside the game is expected and required. It's fun too. :D
tsuyoshikentsu
12-19-05, 09:57 PM So I assume from all the sarcasm that the general opinion is "this won't have a negative effect?"

Great!
HyperVyperBeam
12-19-05, 10:48 PM Unless in the middle of a make out session she starts asking you to give her more treasure and allowing her to take extra feats and skill points for her character, then no, it shouldn't be a problem.
On_the_wings_of_TPK
12-19-05, 11:08 PM Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5
I wish to subscribe to your news letter.

You rock.
loaba
12-19-05, 11:20 PM Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5
:clap:

And now, for the obvious question; this is in the DM forum why? :rolleyes:

Mods: make a chat forum, there is clearly a need.
WarColonel
12-19-05, 11:51 PM Not for nothing, and I mean no disrespect, but we are all nerds. I am just saying this from personal experience, but there is a special kind of nerd inside of every text RPG'er, no matter how he/she acts ooc. This nerd is a unique entity, always longing for a fellow nerd to share with. If you have found a person of your sexual preference who has this nerd, marry him/her.
Nom
12-20-05, 12:04 AM So I assume from all the sarcasm that the general opinion is "this won't have a negative effect?"Issues to watch out for:

* favourtism. May be real or perceived, and including reverse favourtism (where you are deliberately harsh in order to avoid seeming to show favourtism). Try to avoid this.

* when gaming, game. The other players have no interest in seeing you flirt with each other, display your passion for each other, or listen to you make small talk. Likewise, they are not interested in taking sides in disputes or being made to feel uncomfortable because you have an unresolved quarrel.

* breaking up. This happens sometimes, and can make things awkward between you. It's OK to take a month's break from gaming together if you need space to sort things out. Taking things slowly early in the relationship can help avoid problems down the track.
HyperVyperBeam
12-20-05, 01:47 AM Not for nothing, and I mean no disrespect, but we are all nerds. I am just saying this from personal experience, but there is a special kind of nerd inside of every text RPG'er, no matter how he/she acts ooc. This nerd is a unique entity, always longing for a fellow nerd to share with. If you have found a person of your sexual preference who has this nerd, marry him/her.

I think what WarColenel meant to say was, It's not every day that a dork like you is going to get the chance to get some, so you'd better jump on that piece while you have the chance.

Not to say that you're a dork or even that that was what warcolenel meant to say, but it was what I took from the reading and that's what matters.
dan1234
12-20-05, 02:11 AM Better question: Why in the name of all that’s holy are you asking us? Don't you think it might be a better idea to talk to the other person about this? If you’re asking about general relationship advice there are other forums on the web that are much better equipped to answer your question. If you're wondering about how this will affect your gaming group you should talk to them about it, we wouldn't be able to answer that one anyway.

Seriously, lol. . . Why are you asking us? :confused:
loaba
12-20-05, 02:23 AM Seriously, lol. . . Why are you asking us? :confused:
I rather think the OP is bucking for alpha-geek status by virtue of his current boot-knocking potential.

To which I say, bed the wench, big girls need love too. But it's kinda like riding scooters, it's fun and all... till your friends see ya do'n it.
a_psh
12-20-05, 03:24 AM Mods: make a chat forum, there is clearly a need.We've got one (http://boards1.wizards.com/forumdisplay.php?f=405).
Belgarath
12-20-05, 09:46 AM Harold?
shadowrisae
12-20-05, 10:19 AM As long as you don't show any sort of favoritism, this is no big deal. This is coming from someone who usually has married and dating couples in my group.

Post/Author/DateTime	Post
tsuyoshikentsu 12-19-05, 05:17 PM	To keep it short: what happens if a player and I start dating? Yes, this is the same group I posted about LAST time. Yes, we have in fact received several offers from soap opera producers.
Thracos 12-19-05, 05:38 PM	Better question: Why in the name of all that’s holy are you asking us? Don't you think it might be a better idea to talk to the other person about this? If you’re asking about general relationship advice there are other forums on the web that are much better equipped to answer your question. If you're wondering about how this will affect your gaming group you should talk to them about it, we wouldn't be able to answer that one anyway.
imperialjunkie 12-19-05, 05:41 PM	There's usually some hand-holding, a few nights out to the movies. Maybe a kiss at the end of the evening. And it gets expensive. Be prepared for some fairly strong feelings of both insecurity and excitement. Sleepless nights can be common too. But don't worry. You should be fine.
Kuronue 12-19-05, 05:42 PM	To keep it short: what happens if a player and I start dating? Yes, this is the same group I posted about LAST time. Yes, we have in fact received several offers from soap opera producers. Um... see, sometimes a DM and a player happen to fall in love. Then the birds and the bees get together and have a party, and that's how Freeform RP is born! I dunno. Cheers for you? I'm dating a player of mine, it's just like any other relationship among a group of friends (your group ARE friends, right?)
Milandros 12-19-05, 05:46 PM	Referring to the gaming only, if you are both mature, responsible people who trust each other and don't have the need for fake reassurance by bending the rules to "prove" you love each other, then nothing. My gaming group contains two married couples. There's never been a problem. Of course, if you aren't both emotionally stable and secure, relaxed and happy, then, hey you might as well have titled this thread "I'm dating someone from the same office - what do I do?" or "I'm dating one of my regular drinking buddies - what do I do?" or any other romance/friendship/mix question.
Good Agnostic 12-19-05, 05:47 PM	Answer: You will have less money available to purchase gaming supplements.
Gworraent 12-19-05, 06:04 PM	So what? Nobody I know has actually had to buy a dnd book for months! You really would be spending your money more wisely on you GF
HyperVyperBeam 12-19-05, 07:08 PM	Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5
Xanthia 12-19-05, 07:23 PM	Answer: You will have less money available to purchase gaming supplements. Pretty much yeah
Gnarl 12-19-05, 07:34 PM	To keep it short: what happens if a player and I start dating? Great, you're probably getting laid soon. Alleluia!
blackknight5k 12-19-05, 09:29 PM	my wife is always a PC in my games, and there aren't usually problems. I mean, when her PC gets smacked for max damage she does give me "the look"...you know, that look like "why did you do that to me?"...but usually she doesn't say anything. Now...that one time I did almost kill her character...yeah, I had to work REALLY hard for my treat at bed time that night...if you know what i'm talking about wink wink, nudge nudge Just kidding, she didn't hold out on me that I remember. Anyways, you'll be fine.
blackknight5k 12-19-05, 09:30 PM	Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5 One more bit of advice - never EVER call it your longsword +5 until you are married
Horatio Hornblower 12-19-05, 09:46 PM	Good for you! Hey, it's just game. Your "real life" is more important. As long as the player you are dating is mature enough to realize that as DM you can't play favorites in the game then everything will be okay. Playing favorites outside the game is expected and required. It's fun too. :D
tsuyoshikentsu 12-19-05, 09:57 PM	So I assume from all the sarcasm that the general opinion is "this won't have a negative effect?" Great!
HyperVyperBeam 12-19-05, 10:48 PM	Unless in the middle of a make out session she starts asking you to give her more treasure and allowing her to take extra feats and skill points for her character, then no, it shouldn't be a problem.
On_the_wings_of_TPK 12-19-05, 11:08 PM	Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5 I wish to subscribe to your news letter. You rock.
loaba 12-19-05, 11:20 PM	Maybe she'll touch your longsword +5 :clap: And now, for the obvious question; this is in the DM forum why? :rolleyes: Mods: make a chat forum, there is clearly a need.
WarColonel 12-19-05, 11:51 PM	Not for nothing, and I mean no disrespect, but we are all nerds. I am just saying this from personal experience, but there is a special kind of nerd inside of every text RPG'er, no matter how he/she acts ooc. This nerd is a unique entity, always longing for a fellow nerd to share with. If you have found a person of your sexual preference who has this nerd, marry him/her.
Nom 12-20-05, 12:04 AM	So I assume from all the sarcasm that the general opinion is "this won't have a negative effect?"Issues to watch out for: * favourtism. May be real or perceived, and including reverse favourtism (where you are deliberately harsh in order to avoid seeming to show favourtism). Try to avoid this. * when gaming, game. The other players have no interest in seeing you flirt with each other, display your passion for each other, or listen to you make small talk. Likewise, they are not interested in taking sides in disputes or being made to feel uncomfortable because you have an unresolved quarrel. * breaking up. This happens sometimes, and can make things awkward between you. It's OK to take a month's break from gaming together if you need space to sort things out. Taking things slowly early in the relationship can help avoid problems down the track.
HyperVyperBeam 12-20-05, 01:47 AM	Not for nothing, and I mean no disrespect, but we are all nerds. I am just saying this from personal experience, but there is a special kind of nerd inside of every text RPG'er, no matter how he/she acts ooc. This nerd is a unique entity, always longing for a fellow nerd to share with. If you have found a person of your sexual preference who has this nerd, marry him/her. I think what WarColenel meant to say was, It's not every day that a dork like you is going to get the chance to get some, so you'd better jump on that piece while you have the chance. Not to say that you're a dork or even that that was what warcolenel meant to say, but it was what I took from the reading and that's what matters.
dan1234 12-20-05, 02:11 AM	Better question: Why in the name of all that’s holy are you asking us? Don't you think it might be a better idea to talk to the other person about this? If you’re asking about general relationship advice there are other forums on the web that are much better equipped to answer your question. If you're wondering about how this will affect your gaming group you should talk to them about it, we wouldn't be able to answer that one anyway. Seriously, lol. . . Why are you asking us? :confused:
loaba 12-20-05, 02:23 AM	Seriously, lol. . . Why are you asking us? :confused: I rather think the OP is bucking for alpha-geek status by virtue of his current boot-knocking potential. To which I say, bed the wench, big girls need love too. But it's kinda like riding scooters, it's fun and all... till your friends see ya do'n it.
a_psh 12-20-05, 03:24 AM	Mods: make a chat forum, there is clearly a need.We've got one (http://boards1.wizards.com/forumdisplay.php?f=405).
Belgarath 12-20-05, 09:46 AM	Harold?
shadowrisae 12-20-05, 10:19 AM	As long as you don't show any sort of favoritism, this is no big deal. This is coming from someone who usually has married and dating couples in my group.