That said, it's a filler course, so your dad is kind of overreacting. I'm sure he'll come around.
Well... you are at fault, because it was you who didn't complete the assignment.
Yep.
And your dad is a dick. My parents over react like that too. My mom gets angry with me if I have a B, but that is because she knows I can get an A with almost no effort. I have a B average because I never try or apply myself when it comes to doing school work. I however am not bothered if I have an F or an A in a class, for all I care about is if I come out of the class having learned something. I take a class to learn, not to get a grade.
Yep.
And your dad is a dick. My parents over react like that too. My mom gets angry with me if I have a B, but that is because she knows I can get an A with almost no effort. I have a B average because I never try or apply myself when it comes to doing school work. I however am not bothered if I have an F or an A in a class, for all I care about is if I come out of the class having learned something. I take a class to learn, not to get a grade.
QFT
BoE, your parents are probably only angry with you, or seem angry with you, because they are using you as a vent for something else. Just try to be calm and collected when they get upset with you. Try and return such treatment with being nice and showing that you can understand things from their point of view. After a while they may not overreact quite as much. They may even become nicer towards you and decide they wish to have a conversation with you rather than chew you out.
I'm sick of them venting and taking things out on me because of their relationsip issues! When someone tells me I'm not good for aqnything, and that I'm a burden, how do you expect me to feel? I thought my parents were suposed to pick me up when I was down, instead of shove me over and kick me! My bro and sis try to help, but they end up yelling at my parents, which only makes things worse! Not to mention that my brother has had a falling out with my dad ever since my bro and his gf broke up! All I ever do is cause problems!
I'm sick of them venting and taking things out on me because of their relationsip issues! When someone tells me I'm not good for aqnything, and that I'm a burden, how do you expect me to feel? I thought my parents were suposed to pick me up when I was down, instead of shove me over and kick me! My bro and sis try to help, but they end up yelling at my parents, which only makes things worse! Not to mention that my brother has had a falling out with my dad ever since my bro and his gf broke up! All I ever do is cause problems!
If your parents say you are good for nothing and you retaliate by being good for nothing then you have proven their point. Instead if you try to be kind, understanding, and help out without being asked, then you will show them that you are good for something.
I do that stuff. Whenever they're in a good mood, they tell me what a good boy I am, but they second they get ****** off, I'm a worthless slacker. Why bother trying anymore, if I can't ever make them happy?
Do it all the time, and stop getting so butt hurt about everything.
What do you think I spend all day doing? Escaping from my problems. Playing videogames. Making detailed D&D cahracters.
It seems like you do nothing all day, so their comments are sort of justified.
Bane, how old are you?
He's 16 or so.
@ DF: I spend several hours studying, chopping firewood, and exercising my dogs. So I actually do stuff. I've still been doing this, but not as enthusiastically. I spend about 2-4 hours a day studying, and another 2 doing chores. When I study, I'm also on the forums.
...Damn hoolagin get off my metaphorical lawn!
*Sigh of relief.*
Anyhoo, your 16. Your having conflicts with your father. Not exactly new ground for humanity here. Get job. Move out. It is about that time. This is how you know. Crazy how your dad started reallying giveing you a hard time when you turned ~12/13. Funny how that coinscited with you becoming a teenager, and how its begenning to really bother you now, at around 16....
It's the classic dynamic. Move up, move out, move on.
I think in the middle of no where where there's no nonrelative girlz.
Teenager
Crazy family (see he's home schooled)
He's home schooled
Parent's don't play D&D (even though it's a highly theraputic activity, that can even show how you view yourself subconciously).
Pacifism ftw?
...ok here's what cha do. Get an ez job and pay for your own therapy?
When I snap, I lose it. that's part of the reason I was relocated out to the middle of nowhere. So that way I couldn't get inot anymore fights. Some knife, some with sharp pencils, some with my fists. And I was 12. I've had problems since I was 10, but they've been getting me a lot lately. Like the past 2 years. I have serious anger issues.
You need to learn how to not be a douche. I suggest that you learn how to meditate.
I dont see how his being homeschooled has anythign to do with him not needing to move out.....
I used to go to a public school. I live 3 hours from the enarest city, which is why I'm homeschooled. i didn't read your earlier post. I don't have a driver's license, so I can't move out. I'm pretty much incapable of getting a job. It's been bothering me a lot, but I'm at my breaking point. It wasn't as bad at first, but it's gotten worse over the years, as him and my mom's relationship deteriorated. I think I'll be equipped to get out at 18.
And we've sorted out our differences. So I prolly won't flip out till a month or two later. We can derail this, like the other one. I realize this is a sudden shift. I didn't make anything up, though.
...BTW I can always stat up Puppet if need be. :P
Thx. Ok.
Casts finger of death on thread.
Bonsai.
My solution to crap like this was becoming emancipated and joining the US Navy.
A week later, pay check in hand, people were yelling at me, telling me what to do, what to do, and study in school. Making a few hundred a week.
Happy me, now at 43, I'm retired. And my parents still treat me like crap, so I just don't deal with them.
Maybe they'll die soon.
And OP, seek some spirituality. Valuing your anger and darkness typically is a bad path, but up to you.
Good luck.
I'm not talking to him right now. I realize I'm at fault for not completing the assignment, but it's a passing grade, and I don't deserve to be treated the way this ass treats me. It's not like I'm getting D's and F's. I get this **** from him and my mom all the time. And he pretty much threw a tantrum to keep me in that class, just because he wanted me to do it. He even admitted it!
Your fault for not completing the assignment and not getting a passing grade. I always think if I am not living up to my potential I am cheating myself. I try harder. I will not accept second best for myself. But that is me.
Don't blame him for your grade or being in the class. You class, your grade, your responsibility. Accept it and move on. Even if he isn't being adult about it you could be.
Your fault for not completing the assignment and not getting a passing grade. I always think if I am not living up to my potential I am cheating myself. I try harder. I will not accept second best for myself. But that is me.
Don't blame him for your grade or being in the class. You class, your grade, your responsibility. Accept it and move on. Even if he isn't being adult about it you could be.
Um. Minja. A C is a passing grade.
I will not accept second best for myself.
Second place is just a fancy word for (the first) loser.
Um. Minja. A C is a passing grade.
It's passing but it isn't the best that you could have done. Since you could have done better, the C is not a good representation of your abilities.
True. But to be honest, the class was useless. Which is why didn't really care. Forthe important stuff, I work HARD. Now *casts finger of death at the thread* let it die.
There is always something useful that can be gained. Some people just don't look hard enough to see it.
There, now dead.
@ DF: I already know how to use Microsoft Word and Powerpoint. That's what the class was teaching.
@ Moondoggy:
thank youI think a C is small potatoes vs knife fights.
I had a friend on my rugby team in high school who had a scar over his eye because his brother threw a butter knife at him. Yes, a butter knife.
Anywho, good luck with your grades and for the love of god, don't bring a knife to a gun fight. That is all.
@ DF: I already know how to use Microsoft Word and Powerpoint. That's what the class was teaching.
Then the class is practice and practice is always good.
Then the class is practice and practice is always good.
UGH. The class is pointless and a waste of his time. He should be taking an AP class or a Work Internship class or something and either getting college credit or doing something useful with his time. The brain can only accept so much actual practice before it just spits out regurgitated answers it's seen a million times before in previous practice sessions.
And over-reacting, super-paranoid parents SUCK. For everyone. However, at least they recognize SOME of your achievements. It's far worse to actually TRY, and then have no one notice at all. Just makes you feel like doing nothing is a totally OK option. :S
Edit: Yah, this is now quitre seperated from what it was supposed to refrence. Make of it what you will.
Ok, I was with you right up until the knife fights and chocking people part.
I think a C is small potatoes vs knife fights.
I had a friend on my rugby team in high school who had a scar over his eye because his brother threw a butter knife at him. Yes, a butter knife.
Anywho, good luck with your grades and for the love of god, don't bring a knife to a gun fight. That is all.
I don't get into fights anymore.
If the class is/was 100% useless to him then he should not have taken it. He should not have given into his father but rather should have put together a will developed argument to present to his father so that his father would see that he didn't need that class.
Sometimes, I'd rather not get into a argument with him, I'' end up hearing about it a month later when I wake up at 4 in the morning and my parents are talking.
ANYWAYS! *casts finger of death at thread* LET IT DIE! PROBLEM SOLVED THIS TIME, NOT PUSHED AWAY!
Ya, we could stop responding but I know that if I respond that you will respond, and as long as you keep responding I can keep the thread going. If you stop responding then it will be no fun.In the meantime, enjoy your profanity thread.