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Gridlock in the Gaming World!

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#1
shogungraue1990
Jul 01, 2009 21:48:49 I know this is probably a minor problem for most people but this is a big problem for me.

Over the years my brothers and I have had many excuses for not sitting down and playing, such as school/away at college, illness, even just being busy with chores. Now, with all of us done with school I'm desperately trying to reopen our D&D gaming time from only a few hours of character making a YEAR, to at least four hours a week of actual adventuring.

One brother is in a raiding guild on World of Warcraft, which of course saps every last moment of his attention.

Another is involved in a relationship where his every move is practically monitored.

Now, how can I tear them both away from their "addictions" without going crazy or ending up bribing them for time?
#2
nightmare_scenario
Jul 02, 2009 1:09:32
I know this is probably a minor problem for most people but this is a big problem for me.

Over the years my brothers and I have had many excuses for not sitting down and playing, such as school/away at college, illness, even just being busy with chores. Now, with all of us done with school I'm desperately trying to reopen our D&D gaming time from only a few hours of character making a YEAR, to at least four hours a week of actual adventuring.

One brother is in a raiding guild on World of Warcraft, which of course saps every last moment of his attention.

Another is involved in a relationship where his every move is practically monitored.

Now, how can I tear them both away from their "addictions" without going crazy or ending up bribing them for time?

DnD is less addicting than World of Warcrack and less urgent than a woman. (no offense intended, ladies, you require a lot of attention)

You're not likely to get people away from those items without threats or animal sacrifice, but it shouldn't be too tough to find another player or two.
#3
Shiftkitty
Jul 02, 2009 8:57:31 Time to pick up and move on. Find another group at your local gaming store or on the "Looking for players" forum.

(No offense taken, but I do pride myself on being very low maintenance and have done my best to pass the example on to younger girls I deal with regularly, even going so far as to take a cell phone away from one who was constantly calling her boyfriend "just to see what he's doing". Criminy! If you don't trust him, don't date him!)
#4
subsistcyber
Jul 02, 2009 9:04:17 WoW Brother - Cut the cord.

Girlfriend Brother - Show her pictures of him playing DnD.
#5
shogungraue1990
Jul 02, 2009 12:19:16 Thanks for the suggestions people. I just might try to find another group and throw my brothers away to their addictions. Sadly I wish I lived in a bigger town, little towns equal little options!
#6
1_ton_ghost
Jul 02, 2009 13:59:06 Firstly, it's family so you can be more direct and to the point when you tell thim in no uncertain terms, "Grow a pair."

WoW: can't hold a candle to D&D. It's static, no RP, all 0's and 1's, hack 'n slash. No room for creative expression, all linear. D&D never gave anyone eyestrain, a bad back, or carpal tunnel, or a monthly fee, you know? G/f plays WoW and consequently, D&D, for her, gets top billing ALWAYS.

G/f: Ferris Bueller said it best, "You can't respect someone that licks your boots." The more he kow-tows to her, puts up w/ this needy, insecruity BS, the more she'll take up the slack. Not saying "codependent", but it doesn't look good. If she's that distrustful, it will only get worse. Likely compensating for something she's done (doing)...
#7
CCS
Jul 03, 2009 23:12:07 For the WoW player - just yank his cords out. Failing that, just mock him for spending more time on-line than with real life family/friends.

For the other one - just invite him over.
What's his SO going to do? Show their true colours & object to him spending time with his own family a few hours a week? Heck, D&D is a group game, invite them along as well. Even if you doubt they'd be into it.
#8
kouk
Jul 04, 2009 2:58:19
D&D never gave anyone eyestrain, a bad back, or carpal tunnel, or a monthly fee, you know?

... Really?
#9
kuonji
Jul 04, 2009 13:58:36 For the WoW player, tell him to get into a guild that isn't terrible. Seriously, I'm in an end game raid guild but that takes two nights a week (4 hours each night) at most before we run out of things to do. That leaves 5 nights available to play other stuff, such as DnD.

For the other brother, just ask him to play 1 night a week for about 4 hours. If we add on another hour for travel to and from the game, that still leaves 163 hours a week to spend with the g/f.
#10
syrazemyla
Jul 04, 2009 15:27:01 I had nothing to add, except I misread the title as "Grimlock in the Gaming World!"

I was very disappointed at the reality.
#11
Kaldric
Jul 04, 2009 17:33:42 My artificer is going to make a transforming clockwork tyrannosaur to ride around on at epic tier.

And if you're in a small town, look for online possibilities, or, if there is in fact a local game store, check their bulletin board. D&D, contrary to stereotype, can actually expand your social circle.

Post/Author/DateTime	Post
#1 shogungraue1990 Jul 01, 2009 21:48:49	I know this is probably a minor problem for most people but this is a big problem for me. Over the years my brothers and I have had many excuses for not sitting down and playing, such as school/away at college, illness, even just being busy with chores. Now, with all of us done with school I'm desperately trying to reopen our D&D gaming time from only a few hours of character making a YEAR, to at least four hours a week of actual adventuring. One brother is in a raiding guild on World of Warcraft, which of course saps every last moment of his attention. Another is involved in a relationship where his every move is practically monitored. Now, how can I tear them both away from their "addictions" without going crazy or ending up bribing them for time?
#2 nightmare_scenario Jul 02, 2009 1:09:32	I know this is probably a minor problem for most people but this is a big problem for me. Over the years my brothers and I have had many excuses for not sitting down and playing, such as school/away at college, illness, even just being busy with chores. Now, with all of us done with school I'm desperately trying to reopen our D&D gaming time from only a few hours of character making a YEAR, to at least four hours a week of actual adventuring. One brother is in a raiding guild on World of Warcraft, which of course saps every last moment of his attention. Another is involved in a relationship where his every move is practically monitored. Now, how can I tear them both away from their "addictions" without going crazy or ending up bribing them for time? DnD is less addicting than World of Warcrack and less urgent than a woman. (no offense intended, ladies, you require a lot of attention) You're not likely to get people away from those items without threats or animal sacrifice, but it shouldn't be too tough to find another player or two.
#3 Shiftkitty Jul 02, 2009 8:57:31	Time to pick up and move on. Find another group at your local gaming store or on the "Looking for players" forum. (No offense taken, but I do pride myself on being very low maintenance and have done my best to pass the example on to younger girls I deal with regularly, even going so far as to take a cell phone away from one who was constantly calling her boyfriend "just to see what he's doing". Criminy! If you don't trust him, don't date him!)
#4 subsistcyber Jul 02, 2009 9:04:17	WoW Brother - Cut the cord. Girlfriend Brother - Show her pictures of him playing DnD.
#5 shogungraue1990 Jul 02, 2009 12:19:16	Thanks for the suggestions people. I just might try to find another group and throw my brothers away to their addictions. Sadly I wish I lived in a bigger town, little towns equal little options!
#6 1_ton_ghost Jul 02, 2009 13:59:06	Firstly, it's family so you can be more direct and to the point when you tell thim in no uncertain terms, "Grow a pair." WoW: can't hold a candle to D&D. It's static, no RP, all 0's and 1's, hack 'n slash. No room for creative expression, all linear. D&D never gave anyone eyestrain, a bad back, or carpal tunnel, or a monthly fee, you know? G/f plays WoW and consequently, D&D, for her, gets top billing ALWAYS. G/f: Ferris Bueller said it best, "You can't respect someone that licks your boots." The more he kow-tows to her, puts up w/ this needy, insecruity BS, the more she'll take up the slack. Not saying "codependent", but it doesn't look good. If she's that distrustful, it will only get worse. Likely compensating for something she's done (doing)...
#7 CCS Jul 03, 2009 23:12:07	For the WoW player - just yank his cords out. Failing that, just mock him for spending more time on-line than with real life family/friends. For the other one - just invite him over. What's his SO going to do? Show their true colours & object to him spending time with his own family a few hours a week? Heck, D&D is a group game, invite them along as well. Even if you doubt they'd be into it.
#8 kouk Jul 04, 2009 2:58:19	D&D never gave anyone eyestrain, a bad back, or carpal tunnel, or a monthly fee, you know? ... Really?
#9 kuonji Jul 04, 2009 13:58:36	For the WoW player, tell him to get into a guild that isn't terrible. Seriously, I'm in an end game raid guild but that takes two nights a week (4 hours each night) at most before we run out of things to do. That leaves 5 nights available to play other stuff, such as DnD. For the other brother, just ask him to play 1 night a week for about 4 hours. If we add on another hour for travel to and from the game, that still leaves 163 hours a week to spend with the g/f.
#10 syrazemyla Jul 04, 2009 15:27:01	I had nothing to add, except I misread the title as "Grimlock in the Gaming World!" I was very disappointed at the reality.
#11 Kaldric Jul 04, 2009 17:33:42	My artificer is going to make a transforming clockwork tyrannosaur to ride around on at epic tier. And if you're in a small town, look for online possibilities, or, if there is in fact a local game store, check their bulletin board. D&D, contrary to stereotype, can actually expand your social circle.